A growing movement wants to destigmatize severing ties. Is it a much-needed corrective, or a worrisome change in family relations? Illustration by Wesley Allsbrook “Family estrangement—the process by which family members become strangers to one another, like intimacy reversed—is still somewhat taboo. But, in some circles, that’s changing,”Anna Russell writes in a new piece on the emerging “no contact” movement. Support groups and online forums have been created to help people who want to get out of unhealthy family dynamics. There are many reasons that individuals choose to go low or no contact, especially with their parents. Some cite physical or sexual abuse, but others point to something more ambiguous, such as general toxicity or even differences in opinion. Supporters of the movement—particularly those online—are often fervent in validating any rationale for someone deciding to cut ties. Still, Russell speaks to many people, children and parents alike, who share stories about the challenges that come after separation. “When you have estrangement, you know, the person’s still alive,” one woman said during an online support group. “So it kind of has this itchy feeling to it.” Support The New Yorker’s award-winning journalism. Subscribe today » |
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