| | | | | Modern romance can feel cold and alienating. Feeld, by encouraging open-mindedness and respect, suggests a way forward.  Dating and hookup apps often steer users in familiar directions: toward traditional committed relationships on one end or toward the fantasy of unexamined, “no-strings-attached” sex on the other. In the summer of 2020, Emily Witt found something else with Feeld, which identifies itself as technology for “open-minded singles and couples who want to explore their sexuality”—and which Witt describes as the first app she’d used “that expressly differentiated the search for erotic friendship from the search for romantic partnership.” Feeld is popular with a wide range of users, including “nonbinary and trans people, married couples trying to spice up their sex lives, hard-core B.D.S.M. enthusiasts, and ‘digisexuals,’ who prefer their erotic contact with others mediated by a screen,” as well as “self-identified lesbians who want to have sex with men, men who desire lesbians, and ‘heteroflexibles’ ” and “asexuals, cuckold fantasists, kitchen-table polyamorists, eco-sexuals, and collectives of men offering group sex to single women.” Feeld unites this diverse group of people around a question that is transformative in its simplicity. As Witt writes, “the other apps, for all their creative prompts, had never stated the question quite this plainly: What kind of sex did we want to have?” Witt’s illuminating piece is part of the Family Issue, a weeklong digital-only exploration of how the meaning of family has changed. Today, we also have Jessica Winter on the burgeoning genre of queer kid lit; a conversation between Naomi Fry and the celebrity divorce lawyer Laura Wasser; and Hua Hsu on heirlooms from his parents’ wedding. We’ll publish new pieces each day this week, so we hope you’ll visit often. Tomorrow: Prenups, old dogs, and a lost and found family portrait. —Ian Crouch, newsletter editor Support The New Yorker’s award-winning journalism. Subscribe today » | | | | More from the Family Issue |  Annals of Education What Should a Queer Children’s Book Do?How a vital, burgeoning genre of kid lit is being threatened across the country. By Jessica Winter | | | | | The New Yorker Interview Life Lessons from Laura Wasser, Divorce Lawyer to the StarsThe so-called disso queen, whose former clients range from Kim Kardashian to Johnny Depp, reflects on the state of our unions. By Naomi Fry | | Dept. of Heirlooms Snoopy and Woodstock at My Parents’ WeddingHad my mom and dad got married back home in Taiwan, they would have splashed out for a banquet. Instead, they had a potluck at a rec center on campus. By Hua Hsu | | | | | | | From the News Desk |  The Sporting Scene Nick Kyrgios Does What He Wants. At Wimbledon, It Wasn’t EnoughThe Australian tennis star lost to Novak Djokovic in the final, and said, afterward, that he wasn’t hungry for more. By Louisa Thomas | | | | | Daily Comment The Self-Fulfilling Prophecies of Clarence ThomasFor decades, Thomas has had a deeply pessimistic view of the country, rooted in his reading of the Fourteenth Amendment. After the Supreme Court’s recent opinions, his dystopia is becoming our reality. By Corey Robin | | Q. & A. How Shinzo Abe Sought to Rewrite Japanese HistoryJapan’s longest-serving Prime Minister wanted a more assertive place for his country on the international stage—at the expense of atonement and historical accountability. By Isaac Chotiner | | | | | Fun & Games Dept. |  Name Drop Play Today’s Quiz Can you guess the notable person in six clues or fewer? By Matt Jackson |  Daily Shouts How Marriage Makes Everything Fancy When you’re in a relationship and you’re unfaithful, it’s called cheating. But when you’re married it’s called having an affair. Like you’re in a heist film. By Eli Grober | |  Crossword A Challenging Puzzle Honking nuisance in urban areas: eleven letters. By Kameron Austin Collins |  Daily Cartoon Monday, July 11th By Liz Montague | | | | | | P.S. The actor Tony Sirico, beloved for his role as Paulie Walnuts, on “The Sopranos,” died on Friday at the age of seventy-nine. The character of Paulie was central to some of the show’s funniest scenes, including the time he got lost with Christopher (Michael Imperioli) during a hit in the New Jersey Pine Barrens. But, as Nancy Franklin once observed, Paulie’s “angry comic flair is only one notch on the dial away from his murderousness.” | | | | Today’s newsletter was written by Ian Crouch. | | | | | | | |
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